tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post7555978807525930992..comments2023-05-11T03:42:43.251-07:00Comments on The Happiest Sad: JealousyJill Elizabethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00077847438322979630noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-14574841472121484052011-03-18T08:22:50.570-07:002011-03-18T08:22:50.570-07:00Every baby should be celebrated, regardless of the...Every baby should be celebrated, regardless of the circumstances.Cassiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12080913200722597938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-9703866675007357652011-03-16T17:44:55.479-07:002011-03-16T17:44:55.479-07:00the paragraph, "When I was pregnant, no one w...the paragraph, "When I was pregnant, no one was happy for me. I can count on one hand how many times congratulations were offered. I can count on one hand the number of people who came to visit me and Roo at the hospital. What I heard most were judgments, of both my character and my fitness as a mother. These judgments weren't rendered by strangers, either. They were given by friends and family, the people who know me best. They had considered my maternity and found me lacking. The people who knew me better than anyone else felt that I had no business being a mother."<br /><br />this was my situation. it resulted in an abortion for me and 'im so happy that it didn't result in an abortion for you jill. even thou i'm only a fellow blogger and a fan, i'm very proud of you :)<3jonnessa hayleihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12466208183684067326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-68886815173459288822011-03-15T16:17:53.658-07:002011-03-15T16:17:53.658-07:00This was so honest. I just loved it. Who among us ...This was so honest. I just loved it. Who among us hasn't felt this? Maybe not in your EXACT circumstance, but being envious, wondering when it was going to be our turn. I know I have.Karin Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14516662405528660516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-39361015973859126432011-03-14T20:09:52.317-07:002011-03-14T20:09:52.317-07:00Oh I LOVE this post! I do not love that you feel t...Oh I LOVE this post! I do not love that you feel this way and am so sorry that your pregnancy wasn't a celebrated, joyful time or occasion. Mine wasn't either. Yes there were a handful of well meaning friends and family but not enough to offset the pain of the adoption and unplanned pregnancy. I love your honesty and sharing your true feelings without being spiteful or mean. You are so wise and choose your words and sentiments carefully! I completely relate to this post. I am so sorry that you were not as supported as every pregnant woman should be during her pregnancy; unplanned or not. xoxoA Life Being Livedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702473000464603292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-66656413711856954472011-03-14T09:58:25.337-07:002011-03-14T09:58:25.337-07:00"I feel so much better since I gave up hope.&..."I feel so much better since I gave up hope." I really, REALLY want that. <br /><br />Jealousy is an evil thing, isn't it? It always makes you look over that fence and think, "how would it be?". Some day we'll be on the other side of that fence and look back longingly at our familiar yard. Such is life.<br /><br />(I can tell you how marriage is and it's nothing like how I'd pictured it - instead of getting flowers and being adored and getting footrubs you're perpetually stuck telling someone "put your clothes in the basket rather than on the floor next to it, don't bite your nails, can you please put your shoes by the door. . ." This is why my sister says she has three kids rather than just her two daughters.) <br /><br />I'm still sad that I didn't know you when you had Roo. I would have been happy for you. Life is meant to be celebrated, and a new life even more! You are so amazing Jill. Don't you forget that. Love you, as always.AubreyMohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13963616274991709000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-31753246024073653662011-03-12T22:07:44.787-07:002011-03-12T22:07:44.787-07:00Thank you for sharing these honest feelings!! Wha...Thank you for sharing these honest feelings!! What a great post! I agree with Amy...one of the best posts yet.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07736424221463366337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-88289216572379024002011-03-12T19:25:37.216-07:002011-03-12T19:25:37.216-07:00If you were able to search the hearts and minds of...If you were able to search the hearts and minds of many of us infertiles, you may see that we also have jealous thoughts of our own. You see, you could get pregnant and carry a child. Our bodies wouldn't cooperate. So here's where we meet, in the middle of our needs. We have what you long for, and you had what we longed for! Congratulations on being such an amazing young woman, and giving birth to Roo. HUGS and FLOWERS, albeit a little late. : )Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389045666629635845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-68528540240581923282011-03-12T18:51:30.912-07:002011-03-12T18:51:30.912-07:00Jill, this is my favorite post of yours ever. I f...Jill, this is my favorite post of yours ever. I feel like I have just had my entire view about the adoption world turned on its head. Thank you so much for sharing your life and sharing this experience. <br /><br />You are amazing.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10462509372537876654noreply@blogger.com