tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post9102315238376634051..comments2023-05-11T03:42:43.251-07:00Comments on The Happiest Sad: Grief and Healing, Part 3Jill Elizabethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00077847438322979630noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-8162633400446280422012-01-14T13:25:16.855-07:002012-01-14T13:25:16.855-07:00Michele, I don't think that being adopted mean...Michele, I don't think that being adopted means Roo will suffer. I'm sorry that your experience wasn't a good one. But everyone is different. I personally know dozens of people who were adopted who haven't suffered. I have no reason to believe that Roo will suffer at all.Jill Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00077847438322979630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-52492518262292336732012-01-04T20:41:53.450-07:002012-01-04T20:41:53.450-07:00I am an adoptee. Your child will suffer as I did....I am an adoptee. Your child will suffer as I did. Being given away by your own mother is the worst thing in the world.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-60027897635693622932012-01-02T12:38:24.753-07:002012-01-02T12:38:24.753-07:00Fixed it, Lara :)
I'm not just writing 2010, ...Fixed it, Lara :)<br /><br />I'm not just writing 2010, either - several times already I have said it aloud. I guess my brain just doesn't want it to be 2012!Jill Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00077847438322979630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-89132474372822933012012-01-02T11:18:39.306-07:002012-01-02T11:18:39.306-07:00Great post. This advice is priceless and applies t...Great post. This advice is priceless and applies to a WEALTH of situations. <br /><br />(BTW, do you have a time machine? You said it was 2010. :) Hehe.)<br /><br />The passage Jessica quoted above is my favorite. In so many situations we do feel that being broken is the best way to honor/acknowledge a loss. But you're so right - being all we can is the best legacy. <br /><br />Your wisdom is inspiring (and totally intimidating). Happy 2010! :)Lara Zierke https://www.blogger.com/profile/14678809883294746934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-32082036959224600312012-01-01T23:55:26.185-07:002012-01-01T23:55:26.185-07:00Jill - I have to agree that a teddy bear can be ve...Jill - I have to agree that a teddy bear can be very healing. I had a miscarriage early in 2011 - a baby that took 5 years to conceive. I was broken-hearted (still am). I was lucky though. Our hospital has a program for families who have faced the death of a baby (whether a miscarriage, still-birth or infant death). The first thing the counsellor did was give me a teddy bear (I had several to choose from). Without that teddy bear I would not have made it through the rest of the year.<br /><br />I am not comparing my miscarriage to placing a baby in an adoption plan. I am agreeing that something so simple as a teddy bear to hold can be a huge part of healing.<br /><br />Hugs.<br /><br />MargaretMargarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04858350553394138992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-15141879279073752462012-01-01T22:52:44.772-07:002012-01-01T22:52:44.772-07:00Thank you for sharing your insights on grief. I f...Thank you for sharing your insights on grief. I found your blog through your bio from the FSA conference last August, and have been sad ever since that I did not attend your class. <br /><br />I was so moved by your thoughts that I found myself reading most of it out loud to my husband, who is trying to watch football on the DVR. Your insights are so powerful that he paused the TV (*GASP*) multiple times, and we just had a beautiful conversation on grief and our limited experience with our birth moms' grief.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01128004235129212651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3980531981336832789.post-11577072450289661412012-01-01T16:47:07.621-07:002012-01-01T16:47:07.621-07:00I love this:
But remember that being broken isn...I love this:<br /><i>But remember that being broken isn't a badge of honor. Being happy, at peace, “moving on” isn't a betrayal of your love. You don't have to be miserable forever to prove that you love your baby or that placement was hard.</i><br /><br />People would do well to remember this in many different areas of life.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing! This was an excellent talk and I'm glad you shared it here.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03117752360285429048noreply@blogger.com