I've written before about things you shouldn't say to a birth mother. That's my area of expertise, so it's what I've had to talk about. But there's another side of things, too, and I think they're important to address as well. Because the fact is that couples who have adopted, or who hope to adopt, have plenty of stupid things said to them as well.
There is an excellent article *here* about adoption, and at the end is a list of things that should NOT be said to an adoptive parent. I get irritated thinking that Roo's mama has to deal with people saying stupid things like these. Really irritated. Like, I wish I had names and addresses of people who have said these things to P and M, so I could ... I don't know. Push cream pies into faces, or give dirty looks (I should probably apologize for such violent imagery).
I'm sure many of you could add to the list because of stupid or insensitive things that have been said to you. I know that most people don't mean to offend. They just don't know what to say - or rather, what not to say.
How do y'all deal with the insensitive things people have said to you about adoption? Have any of you found any good ways to correct and educate people?